Following the long-running bestseller 'That stays in the family', the expert's new book on transgenerational transmission How we solve the most important task of our lives Why do we feel so powerless around our parents, even as adults? Why do we so often revert to being children in our interactions with them? Many people are hopelessly entangled with their parents: guilt and disappointment, stemming from excessively high mutual expectations, dominate the relationship. But at some point, it's time for all of us to say goodbye. This doesn't mean breaking off all contact with our parents, but rather letting go of parental expectations and demands. This emotional separation is a lifelong process and one of the most difficult tasks of our lives. Only when we actively address inappropriate feelings of dependency and guilt can we break free from our parents in a healthy way and lead happier relationships and independent lives. 'Breaking away from one's parents does not mean a loss, but a gain: the chance for a self-determined life.' Anger at too much parental interference, even though we have long since led our own lives, disappointment at a lack of support, constant feelings of guilt or seemingly unsolvable conflicts - all these can be signs that we are still entangled with our parents. But there is a way out of frustrating parent-child relationships: our conscious separation. Separation means, on the one hand, becoming less dependent on our parents and their approval, and on the other hand, letting go of unrealistic expectations of them. We learn to pay attention to our needs and our boundaries and, step by step, take responsibility for our own lives. This book helps you recognize unconscious entanglements and break free from them. Ultimately, this can transform all our relationships for the better. Because the more mature and clarified our relationship with our parents is, the more carefree every other relationship we have will be. Breaking free in a healthy way isn't always easy, but it's absolutely worth it: it's the only path to a free, self-determined life. biography Sandra Konrad, PhD, is a certified psychologist and works in Hamburg as a systemic individual, couple, and family therapist. Her specialization is multigenerational counseling and therapy. New product