Five conflicts that can strengthen any relationship Conflicts are part of every partnership - but only a third of all problems can really be solved. Instead of wearing themselves out, the internationally successful couples therapists John and Julie Gottman show how couples can learn to deal with challenges constructively. Their approach promises not only harmony, but long-term growth and a deeper connection. Successful love despite challenges Based on decades of research and countless studies, the Gottmans have identified the five most common relationship conflicts.